January 2012
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Its been a week
Its been a week since I have had any communication with Rick. No calls, no texts, no emails. I think this is the longest we have gone without communication.
I miss him a little but when I think about how I was hurt and the annoying things hes been doing lately, I feel this is for the best.
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I have to tell you
I decided things are over between Rick and I. He snapped at me and called me names for no reason. That might not sound like a big deal but when you are a victim of abuse (two relationships I experienced this) you learn NOT to take it anymore.
When you write to me tell me about your douche bag boyfriend, I tell you to get out of the relationship. This is what I need to do myself.
This guy...
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I promise ........
This year I will be on top of this blog. I never expected it to grow like it has.
I want everyone who is hurting over a break up to find the peace I found.
Am I happy with my life right now? No, not really but at least I no longer hurt and will avoid the things I did in my past that took me to a hurtful place.
Thank you guys for the nice emails you send. It really means a lot to me.
x
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You Know You Are Over Him When.......
I had a call from ex #1 last night. It started with me because I had a medical question for him (he works in the medical field). He ended up calling me in the middle of night.
By that time, I was already sleeping. I took the call, asked him my two questions and fully expected that it was the end of the conversation. Noooooo! He kept talking. He talked so much I couldn’t get a word in.
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40 WAYS TO LET GO AND FEEL LESS PAIN →
December 2011
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yaiku asked: Hi! Love your site - it's so sad reading everyone' stories. As an expert in breakup things, I'd love your advice on a little side project I'm working on -a website called neverlikeditanyway do you think people need to grieve before they're ready to laugh it off?
Update to the Update
All I wanted was one night with him. As it turns out I haven’t seen him in over a month. I have left him alone because he is so stressed with work and other things hanging over his head.
He did end up coming over on Saturday night. Even though I was sick he spent the evening with me. It doesn’t mean I forgive him but its a start.
Then I find out that he has made the time to visit...
November 2011
1 post
Happy Thanksgiving
The holidays are the worst time to be going through a break up. Hang in there. The holidays can still be fun if you let them be.
First of all, hang out with love ones and friends. If there are children around, hang out with them for a while. Kids have away of cheering you up like not other.
Don’t forget your pets. I happen to be alone today but I have a faithful cat with me. She is a...
October 2011
4 posts
I Miss Him
Rick had to take a second job and that leaves little to know time to spend together. He is under a lot of pressure so I do not want to add to it.
This could mean holidays alone.
I am trying to get my family here for the holidays. I miss them so much. My mom has met Rick but my dad has not.
The pressure has been on me for me to find a “real” relationship. A relationship with...
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How Many Of You Are Looking To Spend The Holidays...
As we get closer to the holidays, I will be posting a survival guide for those of you going through a break up.
Sorry for the long absence.
I have been busy with my life and have let this go. I am back with some news.
Yesterday I was on Facebook and EX #1 posted a picture of himself. He looked as handsome as ever……..
I was told he was seeing someone (again) and my reaction is the same, “so what”. I do not care anymore.
He is still the same guy he ever was. I have lost count of how many relationships he...
adelicatehappiness-deactivated2 asked: My boyfriend of just over a year dumped me yesterday. I was coming home from vacation, and when I logged onto facebook, I saw he'd changed his relationship status to single. Then I saw a facebook message saying that he didn't love me anymore, he couldn't do this anymore and that he's breaking up with me.. I haven't even cried.. I'm just in so much shock.. We went...
June 2011
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A Brief Encounter And A Surprise
Rick stopped by for a couple of hours yesterday. The party he was suppose to play with got canceled so he had some free time to spend with me. Then he had to dash off to go to a jam session.
When I saw him yesterday, I see his busy schedule its taking a toll on his health. He was very gaunt, lost a bit of weight.
He denies he lost weight. Why I do not know but I do not that his day job and his...
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A Change
I have decided to give ex-1 & 2 names so its not confusing.
Ex BF #1 is now called Greg. bi-polar musician that I tried to save
Ex BF #2 is now called Rick. is also a musician but older. He’s has busy career, teenage daughter, son in collage, a fear of intimacy issues.
Greg -I talk to and text occasionally.
Rick - I am seeing but we are a FWB relationship. When he starts acting like...
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Possible Contest
I was thinking of holding a contest. Not sure what it will be but I can tell you the prize will be a small collection of books that will help you during a break up.
I need to give this some thought.
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WatchThis video seems to sum up what I just wrote on the post below.
What part of being single do you enjoy?
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Moody Men, I Do Not Need Them Right Now
#2 has been in a foul mood for the past two weeks. I feel for the guy because he is under tremendous pressure financially. He is a sales rep in an economy that isn’t very friendly these days.
What it means for me is less time with him. I am not sitting around being bummed out it. It means more time for myself.
I am remodeling my office, going to the gym, cooking outdoors, playing with...
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We Did It
Finally EX BF # 2 and I had sex. Its been a long time since we “went all the way”.
The reason it didn’t happen sooner was because I wasn’t ready to go there.
You know what? I am not ready to go back there.
I am not sure if there is something wrong with me physically or its all in my head but I can’t get too turned by him.
Is it because I do not trust him or...
May 2011
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Three Bands, A Demanding Career And Kids Means
No time left for me. EX 2 has got his old band back. While I am happy for him, I realize that there is not going to be time for me.
Tonight we may get together for a movie, if his band duties do not pan out.
I am starting to lose interest.
allthatisleftofme-deactivated20 asked: I am so happy I found this blog! Well, not happy for what you're going through, but happy because I can relate. I began my blog to let out all the crap from my breakup as well. Hope it's getting better for you!
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Annoying Friends..........
Have you ever known someone who likes to tell you things to see if they can get a rise out of you?
The person I am talking about is a band mate of my EX BF #1.
He did they,”I don’t know if I should tell you this”. After couple of rounds of this I finally told him I didn’t care what it was about.
Then he finally tells me the news. My EX BF has bringing the same woman...
April 2011
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Typical.....
Whenever I spend time with EXBF 2 he will back off for a week or so. I have never understood why he does this.
This time, I am not going to let it get to me.
Its his hang up, not mine.
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Friday Night With Ex BF 2
I asked him if he could stop by to help me do a couple of things around my house that I was in desperate need of. My brother was out of town so I had no choice.
At first he was going to stop by just to do me a favor but when his band canceled, he had the night free.
I asked him if he wanted to watch a DVD with me. He was up for that and told me he would bring dinner.
We watched the movie and...
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Update
Sorry for my lack of updates. Nothing really is going on with my love life. The only thing to mention is I received another call from Ex BF 2 and he mentioned he was horny. Ok…… I told him to take care of himself.
I have not seen him in months. Its been my choice. You know what? It feels good.
March 2011
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Guess Who Misses The Sex ?
Ex-boyfriend #2. After he dumped me for another woman and told me he was going to have sex with her. Don’t know what happened her.
I miss the sex too. It was very satisfying and he actually cared about my pleasure.
Do I want to be his sloppy second?
luiisah asked: My question is: my ex- now had went behind my back and got back with his ex- I cut things off with him but he apologized sayin he wanted to be friends but I told him..he would call me like 3a.m. but Im like don't you have what you want so why is he still callin me then??
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Men Who Can't Love: How to Recognize a... →
This book has really helped me what goes on in the minds of some men.
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Toxic People
You know who they are. The ones who always rain on your parade. The ones who discourage you for making any improvements in your life.
I have gotten rid of people in my life more than once and I can tell you, it is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Of course there are cases when cannot break yourself free completely. My mom and I get along now but for years we did not when we lived...
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About Yesterday
I was talking to my therapist yesterday. I was telling her how much I miss him and the friendship we had.
I can still be “friends” with him. We still talk, and text but is that enough?
We had a physical relationship that was on my part, very strong.
I had FWB relationships before and they worked out great. It was what it was.
Now things are different. This FWB relationship...
v0dkadiet asked: my boyfriend and i just broke up. we were together 15 months, i know what you're going through with this heart ache. it's all i blog about. stay strong<3
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Falling Down
Ex-BF #2 has been on my mind a lot lately. He called me last Thursday and we talked for a long time.
For some reason he wanted me to know he has not had sex with anyone since me.
I asked him what happened to his “soul mate” and he said, she is not my soul mate. Then he mumbled something about being fickle.
So see, here he ends our relationship so he can be with someone else and he...
February 2011
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Update On Ex-Boyfriend #1
He has been contacting me lately. I guess he is in between girlfriends.
Today he is out of the country playing a charity show. He sent me a text to say “hi”.
He has not changed. When does contact me, its just to talk about himself. The same shit, different day.
Honestly it does not bother me. I know what he is like. I will NEVER let myself get used and hurt by him again.
Updates Coming
I have updates to post on both Ex-boyfriend 1 and two. Will be back soon.
Take care Ladies.
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Try This - Affirmations
“Affirmations are positive statements that describe a desired situation, and which are repeated many times, in order to impress the subconscious mind and trigger it into positive action. In order to ensure the effectiveness of the affirmations, they have to be repeated with attention, conviction, interest and desire”.
A couple of friends of mine told me start saying a daily...
aonani asked: hey girl. I find your blog so amazing 'cos you wrote down almost all of my feelings.
been suffering the same situation.
could you please tell me your regular tumblr (if you have one?), where your posts are about your daily life? I bet they're amazing and somewhat mutual to me.
been suffering the same situation.
could you please tell me your regular tumblr (if you have one?), where your posts are about your daily life? I bet they're amazing and somewhat mutual to me.
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I Didn't Tell You What He Did Last Week.
I made no contact with him for over a week. He did finally call but it went right to voicemail.
I was in no hurry to listen but later on I saw the transcript and it made no sense. So I finally played it.
He says, “you are still plenty pissed at me”. I haven’t heard from you in a week.
Yes, that is right.
Later on I see him on Facebook. I made no contact with him, then all of...
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That Little Prick
If you are familiar with Fast Times at Ridgemont High, You might remember the scene where Demone gets in his car only to discover it has been spray painted with the word Prick on it.
I feel right now like going a spray painting his car, or making his pictures public so his new GF can see he was seeing someone while was getting involved with her.
I am not a douche so I can’t go there. This...
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Funny Enough
The original EX-BF has called me. He is I guess in an up mood (remember he is bi-polar) .
We just chatted about his upcoming gig. I asked him if he wanted to do some modeling again. He said yes (however he is a flake so I won’t count on it) He told me that he doesn’t look good anymore.
Later on he was on Facebook. The next day I found out he had been watching our old videos. I...
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I Am Kinda Ready To Talk Now
First of all, I am sorry to hear some of you ladies are sad. I am too.
It’s Friday night and I am sitting in front of a TV. Normally I was with him on Friday.
I have no idea what is on TV.
I guess I am not ready to share my story but lets just say that its a little like the last break-up. NO, he was not like my ex-bf except for the part where he was looking online for someone else,...
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Broken Hearted Again, How Are You?
Yes, it is true. I was dumped and LIED TO AGAIN. However I will have to write about this later.
How are you doing today?