I have decided to give ex-1 & 2 names so its not confusing.
Ex BF #1 is now called Greg. bi-polar musician that I tried to save
Ex BF #2 is now called Rick. is also a musician but older. He’s has busy career, teenage daughter, son in collage, a fear of intimacy issues.
Greg -I talk to and text occasionally.
Rick - I am seeing but we are a FWB relationship. When he starts acting like a boyfriend, he backs off.
So those are the players.